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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I hate this asshole jock vs shy nerd dichotomy. It is SUCH a false dichotomy, like all the women here have pointed out.

[b]We want confidence, intelligence, and a man who is comfortable in his own skin.[/b]

Guess what? If you're either shy or an asshole, you are NOT confident (yes, assholes are not confident) and you are not comfortable in your own skin. So neither of them qualify.[/quote]

Whether you are a high powered lawyer or the girl behind a McDonald's counter, women want a man who makes them feel safe and protected.  A man with a strong inner core with beliefs to match.  Period, end of story.[/quote]

Yes to "man with a strong inner core and beliefs to match"... No to "women want a man who makes them feel safe and protected".

I want a man who makes me feel good, in many many different ways.  Who feeds my brain with mental stimulation... who feeds my heart with loving attention... who fills my days with good company, adventures, good quiet time, leave me alone time (when I need it)... who feeds my body with good foods (if he can cook!) and all that good sexual attention... and who feeds our kids with awesome parenting...

Feeling safe and protected is a huge bonus, but I have spent plenty of years living on my own and I do a pretty good job of keeping myself safe and protected, so no, that is not one of the things at the front of my mind/heart when I'm meeting a man or dating him.

Now, somoene who makes me feel UNsafe is out the door right away.  And I do like feeling safe.  It's just not one of the main things I'm looking for... there are a LOT of other things that are more important to me to feel, and that has been that way since high school.[/quote]

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