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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thank you for all the opinions. I'm really not controlling. I actually just feel bad putting hospitality-related chores on DH. He works really hard and takes on a lot of responsibility. He's very capable and that's not what I was implying. I enjoy being a good host and it bothers me that in-laws won't be using the guest room. Yes, I can get over it but it seems like it's within my rights to refuse making them alternative arrangements. -OP[/quote]

I don't understand why you feel bad.  DH accepted it without running it by you and presumably he realizes that there is no bed in the basement and the bathroom in basement has not be cleaned in awhile.  You said he is capable of doing the work and either he will do it or put on his big boy pants and tell his parents he won't have time to get it ready.  As a pp mentioned, you don't agree to something without spouse input that requires the spouse to do all the work...and a pregnant spouse at that.

As for feeling slighted that they prefer the basement to the guest room, there will be other people that  will be thrilled to stay in your guest room.  Also as you can see people have very different notions of staying with family, some prefer guest rooms (if available) , some stay in hotels,some stay in the basement and prefer that, some take over a bedroom of another person in the house (like when grandma visits, a kid gives up his/her room) ..lots of different possibilities and people have different expectations/upbringing.  My dad was a fit people wherever you have space we ain't fancy when family visits.  We didn't see them often, people didn't have money for hotel, and we didn't have spare rooms waiting for infrequent family visits.  The most important thing was that they were coming to visit, not the sleeping arrangements.  Now DH's family did not have visits like that and would have either not visited or stayed at a hotel if there wasn't  a room with a bed for guests.  I think each of us had a bit of a shock getting used to the differences but I have seen that there are positives to both sides.  We have both had to bend a little.  [/quote]

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