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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm 45 with full custody and no family in the area. What's dating again?

I know I could probably do something online, but the cost of a sitter for an exploratory "how nice to meet you  -- I've seen your profile" coffee/dinner is just not something I'm willing to take on.  Don't want to spend $50+ making small talk with a stranger -- might be willing to do it with someone I kind of already know (met at work, etc), but not to go back on the online treadmill.[/quote]

Why wouldn't you meet for coffee or lunch while your child/ren is/are in school or daycare? I'm 45 and married, but if I were single, that's what I would do.  I can't imagine not having a love life just because I had kids.[/quote]

Because when you have full custody, you do drop off and pick up. Add in commutes, and you can squeeze in your 8.5 hours and still make pickup. To take extra time is to require a sitter. Or you have to be rich enough to have a nanny or au pair who will be willing to do the extra hours.  You also tend not to know the other moms at daycare or aftercare enough to be able to trade caregiving on a random day. I knew a few daycare parents, but now my son's in K, I really don't know any of the parents at all. Never have the opportunity to see them.

If you're getting enough child support to be able to fart around when your kids are in school or in paid care, the dad probably also takes them sometimes so you can get out. But with no CS or father in the picture, you have to make it work to stay well employed. [/quote]

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