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OP here and my sister and I have a pretty good relationship. We've had our ups and downs but have always come back together. We shared a hotel room the night before her wedding and we were talking about a lot of different things and yes I asked her if she doubted her decision even a little bit and she answered no with complete certainty. To another pp, no I am not married and in all honesty I wish I have found someone I didn't have doubts about. I have been dating someone for over a year now and I still have doubts if he is the one. My sister was engaged after they dated for only a year and a half and married after a year long engagement. So I accept that maybe I should look at her relationship that seems really great and try to figure out what it has that my past relationships and possibly current relationship is missing. That being said, in my OP I never said I didn't think she had a good marriage, I voiced my concerns about her decision to quit her job and not actively look for another one. Even if she does go back to school, what is she going to tell future employers about this big gap on her resume? Relationships don't always last and I don't want her to be left with nothing if something does happen.     [/quote]

I dated my bf for several months before he proposed. We were married about a year and a half after we started dating.  I had issues with cheaters and sometimes you have to take a chance. I was pretty clear with DH before we married. I said if he cheated, we would divorce. No working through it, because that is something I couldn't forgive. Same for abuse. Anything else, I would work on. We have been married 9 years. I am currently a SAHM and I love it. I have a degree and put my career on hold because my kids were more important than $. I worked with my first child and that enabled us to pay off our home, so financially, I was able to stay home with second child. Financially/Emotionally/Physically rearranging my schedule to include a career with kids wasn't worth it for me.

In another post, you said sister is living off "Husband's Money." You are wrong. It's [b]their [/b]money. When people start thinking his/hers, you get into trouble. When it's "Ours" I think it leads to a happy home.

Money isn't the key to happiness for everyone. Actually, I don't know anyone who IS happy because of money. (But then again, I don't know any millionaires.)[/quote]

I get what your saying but my sister does not have kids, she says they are never going to have kids. I don't understand why she doesn't want to be productive with this time. However the consensus here is if she is happy I should leave her be and I will take that advice. [/quote]

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