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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I have one child who is an academic superstar, and another child who is not.  But that second child is so loving and wonderful and happy-go-lucky and a real people person that I have no worries about the future.  It's my academic superstar I worry about because with such gifts often come real emotional burdens.

Is your child happy?  Is your child kind, patient, funny? Is he helpful and thoughtful?  Does he have friends, and is he a good friend?  These are qualities and characteristics to be more proud of than academic achievement.

What interests does he have? Why don't you pick up on something he enjoys and do it together, so that you can see what lights up his world and admire his passion for that one thing?

I can tell you as someone from a huge family where there were a lot of academic achievers that success in elementary school does not always translate to success as an adult.  The smartest of my siblings is now an unemployed, recovering alcoholic.

Also, is there any chance you are a "lawnmower" type parent who has always removed all obstacles from your child's path? This alone can dampen a child's spirit.  Let him struggle here and there to find out what he is capable of, which will only help instill confidence in himself.

And, fwiw, my DH was kind of a slacker until he got to his freshman year of college.  Then he started to excel, graduating from a big name law school and is now an executive director.  (But I love him because of what a good human being he is, not because of his smarts and his drive.)[/quote]

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