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[quote=Anonymous]In terms of cutting off, I don't really see how OP is in a position to do this or advocate total cut off - I mean this woman IS her DH's mother.  But she can not participate; as another PP said, he wants to see her, or she wants to see the grandkids, he can take her.  Maybe suffer her on a few holidays, but other than that, OP can decide this was the final straw and not deal with her anymore.

But honestly, unless she was abusive or neglectful or hurtful to the grandkids, I would never advocating total cut off from their grandma.  OP should just be able to not have to deal with her herself.

Also OP, if you not dealing with her becomes an issue for her, be ready to say calmly but firmly "You know that you did the wrong thing, that it wasn't a mistake, and then you lied to me and your son about it.  That is unacceptable and I won't put myself in the position of being treated like that further."  And that's all you say, in the course of the few times you see her.  Be civil in front of the kids but the moment she starts pulling anything bad, say "Ok kids, we need to leave now" if you happen to have them, or say "Ok, well I need to be going" and leave your DH and kids with her.

Sorry for your losses OP.  We have an only child, who is 5 now, but I still haven't been able to bring myself to part with her baby clothes.  At some point I will give them away or sell some to cosignment (the really really nice stuff), but I understand the sentimental value and wanting them to go to someone you know/love if they're having a baby and you don't use the clothes anymore.  That idea of stuff thrown i nthe trash/Goodwill that you would have used is awful.[/quote]

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