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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. All I'll do is not take her calls for two weeks. And limit interaction for a bit so she realizes she crossed a line.

I will let it go. But she broke my trust and I see her differently now. And she can lie all she wants. But she knows what she did was wrong. She's smarter than that.

What makes me angrier is her son paid off $80,000 of loans two weeks ago for she and her DH, and that same son is paying $1500 in interest (thru his line of credit for the loan payoff). We are paying $200/month in other debt they have. They have no issue taking from family and yet, act like money goes on trees for the rest of us. I have two children now and it would've been nice to reuse perfectly good clothes.

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She knows she was wrong but didn't apologize or offer to replace the clothes. Hell with that. Stop paying the debts. Tell her you need the money to replace all the baby's clothes and stroller. If your husband doesn't go along with this, cancel the checks he writes. Send a message to your husband and your MIL that you are PISSED. Money is usually the only thing people understand. [/quote]

I agree with this.

"So sorry MIL, but we really need the $ to buy baby clothes and other necessities for our second child.  It's actually more than that -- you were dishonest and cruel with our things of great sentimental value, and honestly, we don't feel able to support you anymore.  I'm sorry it had to come to this."
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It is funny though.  The DW's are ALWAYS saying that the DH's should take the lead with his mother.  But here you have (and this is not the only post), DW advocating making the decision to cut off the MIL financially.  TBH, no self respecting DH would take this position and harm his mom over some baby clothes.  Further, I would not want to be married to a man who would.  That type of emotionless vindictiveness toward one's own mother is scary.

My DH would have read his mother the riot act over this.  No doubt.  At the end of the day though, that is his mother and she deserves his love and respect. She did raise him to be a good man and I am now benefitting from that. OP, I suggest that YOU limit your contact with her, but do NOT try to turn your DH against her.  He supported you and he likely said somethings to her that you were not privy to.  [/quote]

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