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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP,

I do not keep anything.  I donate, throw things away, etc.  There is no clutter in my house.  I wouldn't have had baby clothes to store and even I am livid on your behalf.  Here is what you need to realize now.  Your MIL is not going to change.  She isn't going to apologize.  Be glad your husband took your side.  My MIL was very destructive in the early years of my marriage and always appeared to be the sweetest little old lady in the world so no one (except my mother) believed any of my complaints about her blush*t.  When I got to my last straw moment, I had it out with her.  Afterward, I did not take any grand stand or make any speeches, I just stopped being helpful.  She lives locally so if my husband wants to see his mother, he is welcome to make plans with her and he is welcome to take the kids with him.  I make plans for Thanksgiving, Christmas, her birthday, and a joint outing that includes husband and kids brays (they are close in time).  That's it.  Other than that it is up to my husband to make plans to see her.  Periodically he makes a pronouncement about how we need to make plans to see his mom more often and my stock response is, "Oh yes definitely."  And then, this is the secret, I do *nothing*.  I do not jump up to invite her for lunch next weekend or make plans to go on some outing.  I leave all of that to him and he doesn't typically do anything.  This strategy has worked really well for about 8 years.  [/quote]

This approach works for me too. [/quote]

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