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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I wish you hadn't called her, but it is done now. And i understand why you wanted to. But she doesn't give a damn about your marriage, and asking her to back off is unlikely to work. Moreover, now she complains to your DH about you, and gives the two of them yet another thing to bond over.

At this point, you have another few options. VAR, PI, whatever you need to get the proof you need. Moreover, provide the proof to her boyfriend (one of the best reasons to get a PI). And by provide, I mean copies of cell phone bills, photos, screen shots of texts - whatever you've got. Not to get her in trouble or to blow up her relationship, but because your best ally in ending this affair is her boyfriend. But you will have to have proof, because chances are, she has already started telling him that she knows a guy with a crazy wife.

People in affairs will do anything, say anything, hurt anyone. You need to prepare for a terrible battle.

DCUMers will now commence attacking the good advice you have gotten so far (and this advice is good). But I am telling you that being kind and bending over backward to make your DH happy, to shield Jane from her boyfriend's finding out, to be the bigger person?  None of that works against people in the affair fog. They do not grasp reality, and are rewriting their relationship history as we speak to make it that they were never really happy or in love with their current partners.

Get your ducks in a row, and start the 180 (SI healing library for info).

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