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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP: I'm thinking about talking to SIL first.  Maybe she's really uncomfortable or maybe our rowdy family of jocks made her uneasy, I don't know.  She's been here for several years now and you'd think she'd at least be somewhat at ease...[/quote]

She could be insecure and perhaps have social anxiety when in new situations.  People like that tend to be on a high horse - to show strangers they are superior and cover up their insecurities.  Just feel sorry for people like her - immigrants who choose to life in this country (bad education system, un-cultured people etc...)

If everything is so bad here, why are millions and millions of people trying to move here?  I don't know of any other country that many in the world want to move to. Unlike China, Russia, India, Brazil, Americans want to STAY in their country!    The U.S. must not be that bad after all.

I had a friend from England who complained about the schools in our community, how our social programs didn't take care of the poor enough, U.S. foreign policy....When I got to the point where I no longer cared if she was my friend, I just point blank asked her, [b]"Why don't you go back to England?" [/b] She had no answer and our friendship ended right there.[/quote]

Maybe she did have an answer (most people do, after all) but it was too complicated or she wasn't interested in sharing it with you. In any case, it is usually not easy to move back. There are people here complaining about DC all the time, but they can't leave because of family, kids' schools, jobs etc, etc.

Also, you don't really understand how ignorant people who move to the US are of the US when they move to the US. They have a certain mental image, but the reality is quite different. By the time they learn the reality, it's difficult to go back. I came to the US in my early twenties and had no clue or interest in things like maternity leave, childcare costs, school quality etc etc. All I wanted was to study at the best university possible and I assumed the rest would fall in the place easily. I thought living here was better because that was would some people were saying (my parents who were totally clueless and have never even been to the US), but I learned that things nowhere as simple as I once thought.

The point is, you think people live in crappy countries, move to the US because it is so much better, and then bitterly complain for no reason because they really would never go back. The reality is often much more compliated. The original countires are often not that bad (or not any more as bad as they used to be), immigrants have various illusions about the US, by the time they realize what the US is like it is difficult or too late to go back, though many would in fact prefer to go back.[/quote]

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