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[quote=Anonymous]OP, if you're really that disgusted, you can go in tomorrow and instruct your lawyer to change your will and exclude your family member from the guardianship thing.

Also, if the kids are older, then your parents might work as guardians -- what works for infants/toddlers may not always work for preschoolers/ES kids or MS/HS kids, or vice-versa. A grandma that's at least alert, if not able to run around, would work for a MS/HS kid.

I'd suggest you find several family members and friends whose mental judgment you trust, and basically appoint them as some sort of regency council that will determine the final arrangements for your kids. I assume you have financial and physical care/custody arrangements separate as well.

Let me guess -- the new wife's 32-35, looks starting to fade, and worried she won't have another chance at having kids? Bonus points if she was sort of "Sex and the City" living it up and turned down at least 1-2 decent enough guys (good providers, even-keeled, no personal drama, and okay or better in the sack.)

But she can't accept that most men at this age either have kids or have other issues, so she's expecting her new husband to just seal off that part of her life, to keep his kids hermetically sealed from her, so she can pretend she is marrying a guy with no kids.

But you know, as soon as she has HER kids, she's going to start getting angry that her husband isn't there for even those alternate Mad Men style weekends. Nope, she's going to sulk, she's going to whinge and try and get those weekends somehow changed, because SHE NEEDS SUPPORT AND SHE WORKS SO HARD BLAH BLAH BLAH. So Dad will be half there or even not there. Hopefully the CS checks will keep coming, but I suspect the new wife's going to bitch about that too.

This is going to end so poorly and horribly. It's very rare that I say this -- but I really feel sorry for the kids in this case. [/quote]

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