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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your assumptions are just wrong.  There are a large number of women in their 20's who are not interested in getting married right now at all.  Not even one single bit.   Many, MANY women in their 20's are content in finding someone that they can share time and energy with, enjoy each other and simultaneously pursue other options.

Really.  Sincerely.  They exist!

In fact, its the feminist mind set which has told them focus on school and jobs and live your life and then settle down later.

Its no wonder the average marital age is increasing, especially amongst educated professional urban women, which is the market I'm dealing with.

To call me a dating failure is ridiculous.  If you want to call me a failure at a first marriage, fine, that is definitely the case.

Dating means: An engagement to go out socially with another person, often out of romantic interest.

Note that it doesn't say, filtering through people to find a spouse.

The goal of life as a species is reproductive success.  And there is no doubt at all that I have achieved that.

You have no idea what the people in my life think or feel.  Exwife, girlfriend, kids, everyone is content.  We have a 21st century nontraditional extended family.  We all attend social events together and celebrate things together.  All of us.  Including ex new bf.  The kids have lots of love showered on them.

Because I don't follow YOUR model of success, doesn't mean that I'm not successful in what I am doing.

Goodness, you really could take a minute to consider that there are other satisfying methods of living your life other than the one you have chosen for yourself.

You are projecting onto all these 25 year old women that you don't even know.

Why do you think that a woman born in 1988 will think the way you do when you were born in 1973?

You have no idea the impact of social media, online dating, tinder, facebook, all of it on the perceptions of females today.  They can get affirmation and recognition instantly by checking their tinder inbox or okcupid or by posting a selfie and getting 1000 likes.  This changes perceptions, expectations and actions.

When you were growing up the chances of meeting someone were much lower just simply based on the economics of time.

A 25 year old woman can "meet" 100 men every day.  With that perspective, combined with the notion that they should focus on careers and education and living life - the idea that they have to seek out a spouse NOW is not on their minds.  Why settle now when there are 100 more new guys on their way tomorrow?

Projecting your experiences from 90's (before wide spread cell phone adoption!), which experiences were short and sweet regardless, onto a girl who might have been born in 1990 just doesn't work.

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what you have might work for you, but nobody wants it. there are men out there who pay women to watch them get fat. it seems to work for them. but, for most people, it is not a relevant path. you are living with a woman (a mother of one of your children, who is hoping for more) who is ok with you sleeping with other women. nobody cares for that kind of success.

i am familiar with new technology, thank you. i already explained to you on the other thread, that a woman doesn't need to seek a husband to get married. in fact, best marriages proceed without a conscious effort to find the one that meets requirements of some predetermined list. this is because conscious mind is inferior in handling this complex problem, just as trying to consciously control the work of one's kidneys would lead to failure.

sure there are bimbos out there, but they have existed since the beggining of time. human psychology is pretty much constant and, though there have been many announcements of revoluationary changes over years, human needs have not changed significantly. young people are still falling in love and beautiful movie stars and models are still getting married in their twenties. the average age of marriage and all that has increased slightly, not 10 or 15 years as you seem to be imagining. and if anything, there is a backlash against feminism as women gained a better understanding of their own fertility and do not feel as much pressure to prove themselves professionally - a lesson that will eventually trickle down to this largely mythical creature of career driven woman who doesn't care to get married before she is 35.

women who are single in the thirties are single not because they were not trying hard enough to get married or were opposed to it, because they believed careers and having fun is more important; no, but because they were overestimating their own desirability, waiting for a better opportunity that never materialized, while they were becoming even less desirable. that can happen to anyone at any age, and has very little to do with technology, feminism or any of that.[/quote]

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