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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I agree that it is understandable that the OP is curious about the donor.  Even though the donor's FB page is not fully privacy-protected, I doubt she would welcome a peeker who was just interested because she was her donor, just as I doubt anyone would be pleased that their ex is peeking.

Anonymity in these circumstances is to protect everyone - donor, OP, OP's child, donor's child.  Would it be OK if the positions were reversed?  If the donor had accidentally found out OP's name and was now following her on FB to see how OP's child was doing?  Understandable curiosity, yes.  But how would OP like it?  The OP agreed to anonymity and now she is betraying her promise. [/quote]

OP never promised she would be able to look away if the name was revealed to her. That was not part of the deal, and looking away when you know would be *really* hard for most people. I think the breach of anonymity is very unfortunate for OP, while the donor isn't really affected by this as long as OP is only looking at her *public* Facebook page. That is page is not "not fully privacy protected". If OP, as a complete stranger, can look at it, it is public. That means that unless the donor is really dumb, she doesn't care who the fuck looks at it.

I think OP should now look away, for her own sake, but she isn't betraying anybody. She was betrayed by having had to find out the donor's name. She did not sign up for this situation.[/quote]

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