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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Has anyone who has contributed to this thread actually been married to an alcoholic? Has anyone attended al anon? Has anyone else here been in the OPs shoes and found a solution? Just curious. [/quote]

I'm poster 12:22, 12:35 and 12:45 and I'm married to an alcoholic.  I've been to Al Anon, did some of the things I advise OP (though my DH was paranoid about drinking and driving so saved his "drunkedness" for home or when I could pick him up) lived with my DH through his drinking, and recovery.  He's been sober for 6 years now and is still fully committed to his sobriety.

For what it's worth, I love my DH and loved him despite his disease.  I struggled with not wanting to leave him.  But, I took control over my and my children's lives.  I did what others suggested.  I took over all parenting responsibilities and calmly pointed out to my DH (when he was drinking) that he cannot watch or even play with the kids while drinking and I removed them from the situation - EVERY SINGLE TIME.  I never argued, never pled with him to "please stop, please stop, please don't' play with kids."  I just would see the drink, see his behavior and pick up kids, go to different room or take them out somewhere and tell him - "you cannot interact with kids when drinking."  
It was hard as hell.  I was tired, I felt sorry for myself and I was angry.  but I did it.  (That's why I don't understand OP's excuses) Eventually, he realized the harm he was causing and went to AA.  After a couple of mis-steps and false starts, his sobriety went from one day to one week to one month and then one year.  We celebrate is sobriety date each year.[/quote]

Congrats to your and your family PP.  I admire you and your strength and I hope OP can bring herself to be the mom and wife that you are.  My aunt was in a similar situation and removed the kids/didn't let him drive them.  It eventually took 8 years and the loss of his license to go to AA.  He's been sober for 26 but the sad thing is that his son appears to be following in his dad's footsteps and is the father of two young children.  [/quote]

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