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[quote=Anonymous][quote]Has anyone who has contributed to this thread actually been married to an alcoholic? Has anyone attended al anon? Has anyone else here been in the OPs shoes and found a solution? Just curious. [/quote]

I'm poster 12:22, 12:35 and 12:45 and I'm married to an alcoholic.  I've been to Al Anon, did some of the things I advise OP (though my DH was paranoid about drinking and driving so saved his "drunkedness" for home or when I could pick him up) lived with my DH through his drinking, and recovery.  He's been sober for 6 years now and is still fully committed to his sobriety.

For what it's worth, I love my DH and loved him despite his disease.  I struggled with not wanting to leave him.  But, I took control over my and my children's lives.  I did what others suggested.  I took over all parenting responsibilities and calmly pointed out to my DH (when he was drinking) that he cannot watch or even play with the kids while drinking and I removed them from the situation - EVERY SINGLE TIME.  I never argued, never pled with him to "please stop, please stop, please don't' play with kids."  I just would see the drink, see his behavior and pick up kids, go to different room or take them out somewhere and tell him - "you cannot interact with kids when drinking."  
It was hard as hell.  I was tired, I felt sorry for myself and I was angry.  but I did it.  (That's why I don't understand OP's excuses) Eventually, he realized the harm he was causing and went to AA.  After a couple of mis-steps and false starts, his sobriety went from one day to one week to one month and then one year.  We celebrate is sobriety date each year.[/quote]

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