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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP again, and just to clarify, I have talked to 2 lawyers.  Both think I have a good chance at sole custody, both told me that supervised visitation would be lifted if he stayed sober for x amount of time. And sole custody can be reversed eventually if he stays sober long enough.   I don't mean to confuse by using the term alcoholic...I thought that meant anyone who could not control their drinking, not just physical dependence.  DH has had long 'sober periods' so I have no doubt he could do it again to lift supervised visitation.  But if history is a guide, he will start binge drinking again when he can.  Plus, his binges come in binges, if you know what I mean.  So he may do it frequently for while, then not again for a while, once it was almost a year...then start again.  Its very unpredictable.  [/quote]

When he is sober, don't you think he is aware of the dangers of drinking too much?  My guess is that if he's a binge drinker, he'll only do it on days when he doesn't have the kids.  He'll "save" his drinking time for when you have the kids.

So, ask yourself this.  You are worried about him driving or leaving your kids unsupervised (AKA at top of gated stairs, cold) when he has visitation or custody.  But, that happened anyway.  It happened on your watch.  So, won't letting him (eventually) have the kids twice a month on Saturday or every other Wednesday actually lessen the chances of him driving drunk with them or not take care of them?  He seems to be able to manage his "sober periods" and if he's a great dad when he's sober, I can almost guarantee that he'll do his best to only drink when he doesn't have the kids.[/quote]

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