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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP-- you really need to dial it back. You named this thread "SIL Jealous of Pregnancy." That's mighty presumptuous of you. Then you write that you were expecting a phone call or email. And then your brother didn't give the excited reaction you were hoping for. Guess what---NOT EVERYTHING IS ABOUT YOU AND YOUR PREGNANCY!

Infertility is a pain that you would not wish on your worst enemy. Please don't be one of those people that acknowledges it, but then expects folks going through it to rally some excitement just for you. It doesn't work like that. Your brother and SIL want nothing more than to make that phone call announcing their pregnancy. Every month they wait and pray for that moment. Month after month they are crushed with that blank pregnancy test.

Back off. They'll contact you when they're ready.[/quote]

I agree.  Back off.  It is not about you, not at all.

My BFF from childhood married in her 40s and she and her DH could not have children.  She and I are Facebook friends and she comments and "likes" practically everything I post, *except* stuff about my kids.  She ignores that they exist.  And she never, ever asks about them.

At first it bothered me, but no longer.  It is not about my kids and me; it is about her.  I have not walked in her shoes and have no idea what it feels like to her to see my kids' photos.  If refraining from commenting  helps her to cope, well, then that's what she should do.[/quote]

But it's not only about her. Relatuinships are about both, and the fact she behaves like it is her alone is, at the very least rude. She is supposed to suck it up, just like sick people suck it up that others are healthy, unemployed that others have careers, fat that others are thin etc etc etc. Why is IF so special? Since when is jealousy such a respectable attitude?[/quote]

It's not jealousy Einstein -- it is pain
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If its pain, then why does it matter whether someone else is pregnant? If somebody lost an arm, still people would expect them to congratulate pregnancy.

No, it's not pain, it's jelaousy, plain and simple. Yet everybody is supposed to play along. Next thing you know, pregnant women will have to apologize to everyone unhappy with their own number od children.[/quote]

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