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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am all for being a stay at home parent, when you have to make decisions about family life and values, but I am sorry, there is no such things as a stay at home wife or husband.

In the real world, that is called being the unemployed spouse.

Not everyone likes working and it is difficult to not get stressed when it gets crazy. But really, if you are a grown up without kids, get to work. The solution is not to quit, but try to fin d a job that works for you.

If you think working is stressful, how do  you think parenting is going to be, esp if you SAH and don't ever get a break? (I WOH and no small par tof that joy is getting away form the kid for a minute).

The more you post, OP, the less I am convinced you are ready emotionally to be a parent.[/quote]

OP here. I don't think there's anything wrong with being an unemployed spouse if you are taking care of the home, running the errands, doing all the annoying chores that keep a household running and help make life easier for the employed spouse.  If one's spouse is fine with the arrangement (as my husband is and always has been), I see nothing wrong with being a stay at home spouse (no kids).  There is definitely value in the unemployed spouse taking care of these things, that otherwise are crammed into an already rushed weekend or outsourced to others.

I work full-time, and our quality of life is not nearly as good as it was when I was a stay at home wife years ago.  Working full-time I have no energy to cook healthy meals from scratch, so we do take-out, and our weekends are spent rushing around doing chores and errands instead of spending quality time together and feeling replenished from the week.  When I think about whether that's worth it, I don't know if it really is.

Now that I'm pregnant and thinking about being a stay at home mom once our baby is born, I just think that perhaps it's worth it for me to stay home to make our lives easier, since I am not that happy working full-time anyway.  Earning a paycheck just to earn a paycheck really isn't that important to me since we don't need my salary and since it only makes our quality of life diminish to have 2 full-time working spouses.

But this isn't a decision I plan to make now.  I will see how things go on maternity leave.  I'm a FTM and don't have any help so I am not sure how things will go when I am taking care of a baby all day and night.[/quote]

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