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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]White mom here.  Well, I'm shocked she would have such poor judgment.  We NEVER use the "N" word - ever - nor have our kids.  Nor our parents.  Period.  It's hate language.[/quote]

Yeah, I'm with you.

I'm sorry that the poster above isn't shocked -- I wish this behavior was SO uncommon that hearing about it was like seeing a unicorn in the wild. That said, I think this info is "news" to people like me -- white, middle-class mom who has never once used that word and is still stunned to hear it. [/quote]

I am the OP who is not surprised...
Not to be funny -- but you are a white middle class woman...not surprised that you ARE surprised
I have been black all my life..yea
NOT SURPRISED[/quote]

I'm not quite sure what PP's comment means except to perhaps say that her life experiences are different than my belief system and values.  But for what it's worth I'm upper class white, very well-educated and I have not a bigoted bone in my body and find this kind of language reprehensible and I'm surprised that Paula Deen would use such language.  But then I was shocked by Michael Richard's comments.  And Alice Walker's in her new book.  And Mel Gibson's.  I guess there are a--holes everywhere but the "N word" is simply not used by my family, my friends, my children, the schools I have been affiliated with or anyone else in my life and I would turn on the person and confront them if I heard it used by anyone.
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You know what is irritating about these types of reactions and comments.
As an AA I have to deal with, steal myself against, recognize the existence of this mess all the time.
1 incident pops up in the media and folks, like yourself, probably well-meaning and sincere, act so surprised, outraged and up and arms..."well, i never," (clutching your pearls)...
when you know what...get a grip cause i have to deal with this s*** EVERY.SINGLE.STINKING.DAY.
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OK look.  The alternative is that we look away and tell you it's not our problem, because really, it isn't our problem.  If you get called names every single day, that sucks for you. No one calls me anything.

But you know how that changes? When people like me (when I'm done clutching my pearls) go home and see this on the news with our kids and we say, "It's a horrible word with horrible connotations and I'll beat you senseless if I ever hear you use it."[/quote]

Wow -- if you think the options you presented are the only ones available...then you are worse off than I originally thought...
This -- This right here is golden... a white lady getting indignant about a black person's  being over your "surprise and shock' over some stuff they deal with on a regular basis.
Try this...try realizing that this kind of stuff happens all of the time...Just try being aware...
shock and awe is indicative of nothing...except you being shocked and awed and [b]doing absolutely nothing [/b]till this happens again...[/quote]

People ARE doing something. People are expressing outrage. Why are you pissed about that??? [/quote]

Personally -- not peeved about people expressing outrage, distaste, upset...whatever you want to call it...
What I find distasteful is people expressing so-called outrage then in the next breath saying no one I know would ever say that or think that...I didn't know people still actually used that word...
That's like someone reading about a horrible child abuse case and saying...I didn't know kids were still abused...I didn't know that still happend...while clutching pearls......gack!

Come on now..that's not even living in the real world...
And really...I find it somehwhat disingenuous...but hey that is just me ....[/quote]

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