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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I went to stay with my sister for a week to help out as she just had her second child. I don’t have any kids yet, but honestly it seemed like her life is hellish. As is a lot of my friends in the same phase of life. They have high friction relationships with their partners, are trying to juggle too much on their own, and are squeezed financially.

It made me wonder if there’s something wrong with how we do the family thing America. Is there a better way? Or is this just life for a lot people with kids?[/quote]

To expand on what I wrote in the prior comment, OP's response to visiting her sister *right after she gave birth to a second baby* is like visiting your friend literally during the bar exam and deciding that being a lawyer "sucks."

Family life doesn't suck. Having a newborn and a toddler absolutely can suck, especially if your child free sister is in the house watching you and thinking "omg this look miserable." It's like one of the most stressful snapshots in what is a multi-decade endeavor. Go visit your sister when they've found their routines and rhythms with the new baby and there are long stretches of snuggling with little ones at bed time while they hold you with their little hands, or seeing who can make the most convincing fart noise during a road trip, or watching your kid actually read for the first time, or listening to them tell you all about the great day they had at camp, or teaching them to ride a bike, or watching them make a really good friend, or watching them fall in love, or any of the thousands of moments of parenting that just make your heart explode with joy.

It's just frankly childish to think "oh this looks hard right now, ugh I will never do it" when the thing you are talking about is so much larger than any one moment.[/quote]

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