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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Good grief. Don’t want kids, that’s fine but some of you need to call your therapist. Sorry but you sound miserable.
Life with kids can be difficult but if it is all the time, it is a you problem(exception for those with SN children- you have valid reason to complain). Just take care of what is in front of you. 
I worked FT with 3 DC. It was just not that hard. Well, did I get to the gym, no. Read a book, no. Watch an adult movie in 12 years, no. But I did that through my twenties and no, mid fifties, I can go back to doing whatever I want. Putting DC before me for ~ 1/4 of my life makes me enjoy what I have now.”

Don’t have kids if it is not for you, but there are trade offs in life and I love the village I am
In.

There are so many posts like this right now I think these are trolls. [/quote]

Seriously. People often say “I didn’t realize it was this hard,” to which I ask, “what the heck did you think it was going to be like?”

I have been blessed with healthy, smart, well behaved children (which is a result mainly of them not being special needs, and maybe a sprinkling of decent parenting). Has it been time consuming? Yes. Is it a limited amount of time in my life? Also yes. Are they fun and amazing? You can’t even imagine![/quote]

I mean, I just wrote upthread that I find family life to be my greatest joy, but I also think it's okay for people to say "I didn't realize it was this hard."

Some of the early years with young, totally dependent children can be really rough. Acknowledging that does not invalidate the decision to have children, it's just an acknowledgment that it's hard. Lots of amazing things are hard. Building a really fulfilling career is also incredibly hard at time, should you not do that? Every single doctor had periods of med school or residency that were incredibly trying, do they all regret it? Building any kind of relationship with anyone has difficulties, in fact working through difficulties is part of what can make a relationship truly rewarding. Surviving cancer or another health crisis is exhausting and hard but obviously worth it.

So YES having kids can be really hard at times. Pretending otherwise is disingenuous. But the idea that because a family has some tough days, especially when kids are not even school age yet, is not a compelling reason to not have kids, unless you are someone who simply never wants to do anything deeply fulfilling or meaningful in your life, in which case I feel bad for you.[/quote]

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