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[quote=Anonymous]My wife works, and there are some advantages to having two careers—our 401k balances have grown far faster (we’ve both maxed out), and she gets regular interaction with other adults at work. She struggles with watching the kids and gets easily tired from them, so I’d much prefer that she work, and I do most of the childcare on the weekends. My wife also doesn’t really have much in the way of hobbies or interests, and her job at least fills that space for her. The disadvantages of two careers are that things like a child getting sick, a school closure, etc., throw the whole household into chaos, we’re always completely mentally exhausted, we frequently have to work late at night, and the children have bedtimes that are too late but can’t be moved earlier because of when we all get home from daycare and work.

If I were ever in a situation in which I were considering remarriage (God forbid) I would consider a woman who wanted to be a SAHM if she (1) already felt fulfilled from something else her in life, including Church, hobbies, etc.; (2) clearly wouldn’t feel like she was falling behind me as a result of staying at home—a marriage is a team effort, not a competition; and (3) planned to treat being a SAHM as a job as opposed to just hanging out at home, meaning that she’d keep things around the home moving on track.

My mom was a SAHM so I’m very comfortable with the arrangement if it’s done well. It’s just not for every woman.[/quote]

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