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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What would “taking the bait and rewarding her behavior” look like?  [/quote]
Arguing and yelling in response rather than walking away if I had to guess. What else would it be? [/quote]

[b]I would guess it would be listening to whatever she is upset about[/b], trying to empathize, and taking responsibility for whatever part he had to play.

Or giving her a break, making dinner for her and the kids, and letting her take a walk or go to the gym or do whatever she needs to do.

Why would yelling at someone be a reward?  [/quote]

She denied being upset at anything. You calling OP's wife a liar? That's harsh. [/quote]

That’s not true.  She said that she was upset that he didn’t heat up dinner for her.  He could have tried to empathize and apologize for hurting her feelings.

That’s what I would consider “rewarding her” anyway.  Why would yelling at your spouse be a reward?  [/quote]

The dinner was later in the evening. Wife denied being upset four times when OP got home. (Assuming he's a reliable narrator.)[/quote]

I hear you.  But the one time we do know that she was mad at him and told him why (he didn’t heat up dinner for her), his response was defensive and disingenuous (he didn’t know she was hungry).  But we know from the post that he didn’t heat up her dinner because it felt like they were in a fight, she was being difficult and antisocial, and he didn’t want to eat with her.

The fact that he’s willing to lie to us, the readers of this post, about why he didn’t heat up dinner for his wife, makes me think that he’s really invested in portraying himself as really calm and reasonable while painting his wife as crazy.  And he really expects that people will buy it. This makes me think that he is likely *not* be telling the truth about whether or not he knows why his wife is upset.

So, short answer, yes, I believe that he asked his wife four times why she was upset and she didn’t tell him.  No, I don’t believe that he doesn’t actually know what she’s upset about.

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