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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it's nature and nurture. I also think sometimes parents are well suited to their kids natural personalities and other times not, and when there is conflict, it can all go wrong.

But I also think that people who are more flexible and adaptable tend to make better parents in general, because this enables them to be the parent their kids need. Then you don't have to just get lucky with kids suited to your personality, because you have the skills to make it work with any kids.[/quote]

I completely agree with this. I am rather rigid by nature, and belatedly realized that my kids are the worse for it. They're good people - they're all young adults now and they're law-abiding and kind -- but the oldest is struggling with his mental health (recent college grad, no FT job, worried about the future of the US), middle is inattentive ADHD and underemployed. I think if I had modeled more flexibility and adaptability for them, they would be struggling less.[/quote]

I am not sure what flexibility has to do with the challenges your kids are facing. It seems like your kids have their own struggles which are genetically determined at 99%. I am sure you are and were a great parent. 
Honestly there are limits to modeling anything. Try modeling flexibility for an ASD child for example. 
Also sometimes it’s as simple as taking the correct meds be it anxiety or adhd and has little to do with parenting as it’s all brain chemistry. [/quote]

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