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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t understand why you’re giving him tasks he obviously can’t handle. Outsource as much of these as possible. What can he do? Give him those tasks. [/quote]
If he’s the SAHP, OP should not have to do all of the mental labor. Absolutely not.

I have ADHD and I know severity and presentation varies, but he needs to find his motivation. Is it consequences? Can you throw medication, coaching, choice architecture at things for him? Most people learn themselves pretty well by mid-life and can figure out their own scaffolding, even if it means they will still only function at 75%.

I know you’re probably at the end of your rope, but shame is your worst enemy here. ADHDers cannot function in a fog of shame of their shortcomings. [/quote]
They don’t feel any shame, that is a myth and false.

If they did feel shame they’d work on systems to avoid their “shortcomings” F’ing everything up all the time.

Ps is that British speak for Chronic F Ups? [/quote]

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