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[quote=Anonymous]PP here. Yes of course he knows I exist. Yes I have met him several times throughout my life. Maybe once every 3 years until I was about 15? I haven't seen him since.  Yes it made me feel rejected but I don't think I would have felt LESS rejected than if he had never bothered to meet me at all.

My being a real person didn't change him because he's a narcissistic asshole. I hope yours is different.

My mom told me he was my dad from early on, but not the gory details.  But some of those slipped out and that made it worse.  He gave me a book that had his daughter's name in it for a gift once and things tumbled out.  I was 12 and it devastated me.

Is he on her birth cert? My dad is not.  Honestly, be careful with the lies because if she ever catches you lying, forgiveness will be hard.

You need to understand that this is going to devastate her  NO MATTER WHAT because having a father that abandons you is devastating.  I agree with therapy to make sure you do this in a way that is healthiest.  And then make sure she has therapy to help with self esteem and dad issues/rejection issues.[/quote]

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