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[quote=Anonymous]So, about my dad’s cooking – yeah, those beliefs are wow, but I can’t really do much about it. He’s stuck in his ways, and I can’t just let him go without food. He doesn't cook, so I step in because it's necessary. I do it because he needs help, and I want to make sure he’s okay, but I know I need to balance it better.

As for his marriages, there were separate issues in each one – including things like incompatibility, infidelity, communication problems, and emotional challenges – that contributed to the breakdown of those relationships. While it wasn’t about a lack of care, those patterns ultimately didn’t work, and his recent divorce has left him feeling more isolate, though that was his shortest marriage.

He’s also started talking about dating again and even going on a few dates, which I’m hoping will help him feel less lonely and start moving forward. It’s good to see him putting himself out there again, and I’m hopeful things will get better for him as he adjusts to this new chapter.

I know he’s lonely, and I want to support him during this time, but I also need to set healthier boundaries. I’ve never really said "no" to him before, and that’s a shift for me, but I know it might be necessary sometimes but I’m not good at it. My husband is incredibly supportive, and he is a great father and husband, married for 21 years, and we’re both in agreement that I can be there for my dad or other family members while also finding a way to maintain balance in my own life, with him, and our sons and daughters.

I still have to be there for him, but I need to do so in a way that doesn’t overextend me. That means being clear about what I can and can’t do and thinking about how we can manage this situation in a way that works for both of us.

Thanks for the suggestions. -OP[/quote]

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