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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Seven months? You never should have even met these children, yet. [/quote]

You are not a permanent fixture in his life yet and your commitment level is low, as it should be 7 months in. You should not have met these children.

Honestly, I would break up with this man. He's showing SUCH poor judgment. Can you try and put yourself into these kids shoes? Here's this new woman that daddy loves that you love that spends so much time with you - except, oops, in three months you break up. How is that fair to them?

Or put yourself into the mom's shoes. You have children. You divorce. Now these children are being pawned off on the new girlfriend?

[b]This man is making bad choices when it comes to his children. Not the kind of man I would want to date.[/b]

And if you do want to keep dating him, you say "Look, I wanted to help you out one time, but I'm spending so much time with the kids now that they're starting to form a bond with me, and I don't think that's fair to them. We've only been dating 7 months, who knows if we'll still be together 3 or 4 years from now? They've already had enough upheaval in their lives. I think I should take a big step back, and you should come up with other childcare arrangements. If we want to do something together maybe every couple of months, the four of us, that might be okay, but I should not become part of their week-to-week lives at this point. It's not fair to them."

And see how he reacts.

Hint: Badly = DUMP HIM. [/quote]

Ding ding ding![/quote]

All of this. Do not just be “unavailable”, be up front about it. A good dad/man would totally understand and honestly would not have suggested you babysit after the first time, if that one was an emergency. [/quote]

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