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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I understand you. Since your dad moved closer to you, he has nothing else going on in his life and has become your "problem" and obligation. You're most likely his only close social interaction. You feel that you're expected to be his everything, while you have your own family and activities and don't want to be all that. It's important for old people to keep their own activities and friendships. Unfortunately for some of us, our parents choices are such that there are no friendships left and suddenly their adult children are expected to fill all the empty holes in their lives. Whose idea was it for him to move close to you? [/quote]

Thank you, this is very spot on. He was very happy to move closer to me, as he didn’t have much going on back home either. I make him attend senior center activities and he’s made some casual friends there. 
But yes, it’s the drastic change since seeing him 1-2x per year that gets to me. He had a complicated relationship with my late mother but at least he was focused on her and not on me! 
-OP [/quote]

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