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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I landed an amazing, kind, caring, successful, insanely hot guy after decades of only attracting complete and total losers.

It came down to two things:

1. Hold myself to the same standard: attractive, successful, etc. I’ve found I attract higher quality men at age 40 because I am very career driven and successful, than I did in my 20s when I was extremely beautiful but had little going for me.

[b]2. Hold men to an extremely high standard, be extremely upfront and direct about what I want, and immediately cut off anyone who doesn’t fit that. Too many women waste their time pursuing mediocre men. I speak up for what I want, and if a man won’t meet that, I end things. [/b]

When you treat yourself like the prize, men value you more. [/quote]
I definitely agree with this one. Think about what you want in 20 years. Why would you settle *now* for a man who has a temper, yells at you, swears at you, neglects you, would rather be out with his boys, etc etc etc. I see a certain type of person posting on relationship threads telling women to settle for less (something like) "this is why so many marriages break up, people give up too easily! He just made a mistake!" - dating is to weed out anyone incompatible so that it isn't a marriage that breaks up. It's simply two single people leaving each other to find someone more compatible.

Don't let people make you feel like your standards are too high. IMO I'd rather be alone than in a poor relationship. There are far worse things than being alone. [/quote]

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