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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It seems like once you enter mid to late thirties it’s slim pickings. All the responsible good quality men are already married, snagged by smart women in their twenties! [/quote]

NP.  I am a man.  I will assume a “good quality man” means something like “an employed, upwardly-mobile man that is ready to get married and have kids.”  I hit that phase a bit before age 30 for very practical reasons.  What were those reasons?  Well, looking into the future, I wanted to make sure that I could launch my kids while I was still working for financial reasons (and I didn’t want to work past 65, and ideally not past 60). Assuming it would take about 20-25 years to launch a child, that meant I needed to be DONE having kids by 40.  It also meant that if I wanted to be married for some time pre-kids (say a couple years) and have time to have two (or more) kids prior to 40 that it would be super prudent to find a partner / spouse / wife at or shortly after 30.  And at that point, I was still early in my career, so my spouse needed to be willing to risk that my “upward-mobility” ceiling might be no higher than where it was already at. The women that were willing to take that risk and that wanted to get married and have kids in the next 10 years were in the 22-28 age range, and while I would have dated women around 30, I wasn’t looking for or interested in 32+.

I offer this as a man’s perspective (mostly to share that men have a mixed financial/biological clock too, or at last that this man did).[/quote]

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