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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Can you trade mornings/afternoons off for "me" time?  ie, each one of you gets a 3 hour break on a saturday or a sunday.  just going to starbucks to sit by yourself for a bit can be a big help.[/quote]

OP here. I could try this, but honestly I don't really want to go sit by myself at Starbucks. I'd rather have lunch with my wife, or - if I had any friends left - do something with one of them. But it's an idea....worth proposing. The tough thing is my wife interprets anything "Let's leave the kids with a babysitter" (or with each other) as somehow the same as "Fuck the kids! Abandon them! Tell them you don't love them!"... So wanting a life outside diapers = You are a shitty dad/mom... Thus, any mention of such activities is met with some resistance. 
Even dropping the kids off at her parents (who would LOVE it) is generally a great way to start a fight. Proposing an overnight is probably on par to suggesting we drop the kids at an orphanage in her head. [/quote]

I'm sorry, the way you feel is her fault! There's nothing wrong with some alone/non-kid time. It's a necessity for your sanity and for being a good parent. Re-read your post, you resent your kids and you don't want that. Your wife has an issue she needs to address, but you need to be honest and direct about this with her before you lose your mind. How come you don't have any young parent friends in your position? Usually people get married and have kids around the same time. At least high school/college friends. Please believe me when I day this isn't normal at all. Talk to her now before you rum away![/quote]

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