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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would take them at their word but also not take it personally. They have prioritized things other than getting together with you. It is what it is.

This is a major reason we have worked hard to cultivate and maintain a roster of family friends with kids. So on any given weekend, we can reach out to 2 or 3 and usually at least one will be up for a hang out, playdate, or group outing. And most of our friends have also cultivated other friends, so if we ever can't make an invite, it's okay and nothing hinges on our presence. So I'm never offended when people say they can't make it, and I also never feel guilty when we can't make it.[/quote]

I like these.  People have complicated lives.  Don’t take it personal.  I often say no to plans.  The ones I’m most likely to say yes to are impromptu plans or those with only 1-3 days notice.  For those- I KNOW I’m free, and if I am and someone offers something up, I’ll say yes. The longer range plans are really hard for me to commit to.  Often I’m not sure of my spouses work schedule, the kids sports events may not have firm dates/times, things that I have to prioritize get added to the calendar.  I feel like I have to say no if I cannot be sure I’m free- rather than saying yes then backing out later. [/quote]

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