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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Someone here has a tremendous chip on their shoulder. No matter what, they will always feel like they got the raw end of the deal; that they deserved better; that all the headwinds were on them. It's really a sad way to live life. I would never want to raise my kids with this attitude. [/quote]

+100. Life isn’t fair for anyone and this is not that important in life’s bigger picture. Kids should take whatever opportunities they have in front of them and run with them. There are kids at elite colleges who aren’t thriving due to different issues and then there are kids at much lower ranked Non-elite schools who’ve been able to take full advantage of the experience. [/quote]

I will add that your child is watching you.  If they do not get the admissions result they (or maybe you) want, you need to let them grieve for a couple days then focus on the positive and get them excited about the options they do have.  It’s hard because a lot of these kids have never failed before (although I don’t consider it a failure).  Acknowledge that the result may seem unfair and arbitrary but the colleges have their reasons and move on.  Visit the options, get them to engage with students and faculty where they have been accepted, go to admitted students day.  Don’t dwell or let them dwell on what they did not get.  It is not healthy for them.  They need to learn resilience and not just sitting around sulking and blaming others.  It’s a lottery and they gave it their best shot.  They have no idea what is on the other kids’ application or why a school chooses one over another.  Parent your kid by modeling resilience.[/quote]

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