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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This thread is fascinating. I see healthy, well adjusted, secure adults who recognize a friend group can exist as its own entity and not be hurt or bothered when they aren’t part of that friend group and then I see a bunch of adults who immediately pivot to “rude, petty, mean girl, bullying” blaming. I can guarantee you the first group is better received in real life social situations and happier overall without immediately resorting to ugly thoughts and self victimization because … another group of women is friends and want to talk to each other. [/quote]

I don't see OP or others saying that the friend group shouldn't exist or that OP has to be part of it. More that it's weird that the group could not be situationally friendly at the pool one day to a fellow mom from school, for a short period of time.

When I'm with a friend group in a public place and someone we all know shows up, especially if our kids are playing together, I'd happily chat with her for a bit and I'd think it was odd if any of my friends was resistant to it.

I think it would be different if OP only knew one of the women, or if kids weren't present, or if it was a private setting (like if the women were eating dinner together and OP pulled up a chair). But this was a neighborhood pool, all their kids were playing, and all of them know each other from the school. It's weird to be exclusive in that setting.[/quote]

The issue is that it’s not one time, it’s constant and OP takes over what was supposed to be a casual and fun hangout. We all know women like this. [/quote]

How could it possibly be "constant"? How often are these women running into each other? Even if OP had an annoying personality (I don't get that vibe personally), this would only happen on the presumably rare occasion when this group of women are hanging out together in a public place where OP also is and where it is possible for her to join uninvited. How often does that happen?

Generally if I want to socialize and have a good private hang with my friends, we go to someone's house, out to dinner or for drinks, day trip out of town, etc.

I would never consider an afternoon at the neighborhood pool a good setting for a hangout with just my friend group. I would assume we will run into people that one or more of us know, and that it's highly likely we will wind up chatting with other people. Especially with kids present.

Do you schedule your regular bestie catch up during school drop off? Don't do that.[/quote]

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