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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This thread is fascinating. I see healthy, well adjusted, secure adults who recognize a friend group can exist as its own entity and not be hurt or bothered when they aren’t part of that friend group and then I see a bunch of adults who immediately pivot to “rude, petty, mean girl, bullying” blaming. I can guarantee you the first group is better received in real life social situations and happier overall without immediately resorting to ugly thoughts and self victimization because … another group of women is friends and want to talk to each other. [/quote]

Agreed.  And that's not to say the other women in OPs post aren't "mean girls" - they might be.  But it's equally likely that they are just closer friends and either meant no intentional exclusion (there might not even have been any) or had something they want to discuss that wasn't just small talk and weren't comfortable discussing it around OP.

Having moved mid-elementary school to a neighborhood that has a very social element, I've been on all sides. Sometimes  I feel awkward and excluded, other times very welcomed, and other times, I worry if I'm coming off as being cliquey because I'm talking to someone I know better (although I try VERY hard to make sure I'm not excluding anyone).

My conclusion - most of it is entirely unintentional.  People are self-absorbed, have good days and bad days, etc.  It's human nature. And it's human nature to be more friendly with people who are like you (similar jobs/educations/upbringing).

My husband hates it. Because he is highly sensitive to any rejection and takes everything as a slight.  He's also deeply insecure and then thinks everyone is snobby about jobs/education etc.   It's exhausting.

These don't have to be "your people" OP - they just have to be reasonably polite and not mean to your kid.  [/quote]

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