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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]We had a situation like this, except it was DH who took the pay cut and couldn't come to terms with the reduced spending. He was deeply relieved when I (the SAHM) took over all the finances, bill paying, etc. and put everyone on a budget.[/b]

We work through equality by me keeping him informed of the bills, upcoming expenses, etc. and overall financial figures. I keep everything including tax liabilities in a spreadsheet that he can look at any time he wants.

We agreed to a "retirement" amount that will work for us so we can both see how close we are.

Some of this is emotional and avoidance- I know from experience that it's depressing to go from more money to less. It's hard to get onboard with reality and reduced expectations. For this reason, I think you need to talk with your DW and if that doesn't work, I agree that she needs a strict budget-- if she can't adhere to that, then you have a marital problem. [/quote]

Yeah, I bet he was “deeply relieved” to have a partner who was finally doing the bare minimum.  You were an SAHM and weren’t even managing household stuff before?  Sorry, but this is what gives SAHMs a bad name.[/quote]

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