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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You can’t fully drop the rope but you can do WAY less than you’re doing, especially at your HHI.

Start with:

-Rinse for laundry. They pick up and drop off, easy. 
-Buy a bunch of disposable plates, bowls, and cutlery, and eat out of that for a while. 
-Bring your standards way down. If you’ve got a house cleaner, stop doing any of it. Sheets and towels can be washed monthly. Little kids can be bathed weekly. 
-Tell the kids every night when they go to bed that there are toys left out, you’re throwing one away, and mean it. 
-Start getting takeout for dinner (delivered) 4 days a week or so, and so insanely simple meals the other days (scrambled eggs on a bagel. Spaghetti with jar sauce. Chicken nuggets. Cereal). Include a side of fruit and an easy veggie (baby carrots, bagged salad, those steam in a bags of mixed veggies) and you’re done.

You’ve gotta find yourself some bandwidth so you can see clearly and then you can figure out longer term solutions.[/quote]

Wtf wash sheets monthly and bathe kids only weekly? These suggestions are neglectful.

Op you can’t drop the rope. Parent your kids. Hire help. Get it together. [/quote]

I’m the PP and I think I’m being misread. My suggestion wasn’t to live like this indefinitely. It was to do this short term, so you can get a bit of a mental break, find a little bandwidth, and then work on longer term solutions. There are lots of good suggestions on this list around outsourcing, teaching the kids to do chores and encouraging more independence, considering quitting or rolling back hours, working with your husband to find better balance, hiring a house manager, etc, but someone who is in it up to their eye balls right now doesn’t have the mental bandwidth to do those things. You need a release valve first. That’s what I’m suggestion. Find some space temporarily, get some perspective, then figure out a path forward.

Also, even permanently, nothing here is abusive  :roll: [/quote]

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