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[quote=Anonymous]I feel like at least half the posters don't get it. OP doesn't want any of the "make them/teach them" suggestions because *those things are harder than just doing it yourself*. If OP had the bandwidth to fully parent and teach them and set up systems to help them learn life skills, she would have the bandwidth to just do it herself. That is why she just wants to stop doing everything and "let them figure it out", because that is what she feels like she can handle.

OP, you cannot just let younger children figure it out on their own. As you have heard from some other posters who had parents/moms like this, it's terrible for the kids and destroys the relationship. For now, you need to hire more help. Outsource as much as you can (like get a housekeeper to clean and shop/meal prep twice a week, hire a driver) and get yourself into therapy. It's weird that you would think it might be ok to just abandon parenting of your kids. My mom basically did that, and she definitely has/had issues.

Once you make some progress with a therapist and have a little breathing room from the additional hired help, you can revisit how best to ensure that your kids start taking on age appropriate chores.[/quote]

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