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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I spent four years telling my kid that he should do his best and if he got top grades, good ECs, high scores that it would prepare him to succeed and get a lottery ticket. He got straight As with the exception of an honors science class sophomore year, 88.87. Our school district doesn’t round up and he had the bad luck to get a teacher who didn’t allow retakes or extra credit. I assured him that two semesters of Bs would not ruin his future. The only kids who got As in that class were three cheaters which really annoyed him. He had excellent ECs which were his authentically. He took a bunch of dual enrollment units and as many APs as the school would allow. His essays were great and not written by someone else. I told him how proud we were but to prepared for things to go differently. His older cousin was valedictorian, perfect SATs and was shut out from all but one of his safeties. My son’s guidance counselor was overly encouraging telling him he had an excellent shot at his dream school.

My son did not get into his dream school or his targets but got into a few safeties. He’s crushed. To make matters worst, the two kids in his school that got in lied on their apps, cheated their way through school, and paid someone else to write their essays. He tutored them in several subjects and always went out of his way to help other students. He’s really struggling with reality that being ethical and helping others doesn’t pay off but lying and cheating does.

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That's a tough lesson, and I could see teens falling into that trap. Why play by the rules when you don't get rewarded in the end?[/quote]

Don't get my kid started on the "extra time" scam. (I am not saying there aren't kids who deserve extra time. DC has friends with legit extra time needs, and he respects it. He does not respect kids who openly discuss faking "test anxiety" to get a doctors note for extra time on the ACT or midterms.[/quote]

Nobody deserves extra time.  If you don't test well then go test optional.  [/quote]

Kids with ADHD and processing disorders _do_ need extra time. My kid has a 99%ile ability and 40%ile processing speed. DC can came up with answers to questions that other kids struggle with (even if those kids have unlimited time). I have other kids, and so I know this child isn’t faking it. There is an actual issue.  If I were AO or employee, I would want to admit or hire my kid because this kid has real flashes of brilliance even if it takes him longer  to get there.

And, yes, kids like mine get into a perfectly good colleges without cheating. [/quote]

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