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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I feel this way, and I feel badly about feeling this way. It's based in a few things. First, there's an ugly ego element. I hate that I feel this way, [b]but you just know that people look at kids differently who get into top tier schools. [/b]That's the part I wish I didn't feel because my kid is great and smart and kind and is a wonderful person and I shouldn't care if someone judges him based on where he will go to school. But the second part is practical. I want him to have access to the best networking opportunities and best professors, etc. [/quote]

I think this is less of a thing than we think it is. Certainly it is not as striking as we tend to think. Sometimes it's not even a positive difference, rather judgemental instead.  Sure, impressed they got in. Good for them. My kid doesn't even WANT to go there. And I want my kid to want to be at the school we're paying tens of thousands of dollars a year for.

And think about it: it is not possible that all of the best professors are located in a handful of schools. And not EVERY professor at those schools is the best teacher or mentor. Some community college professors are better teachers than some professors at 4-year universities. Just like one high school does not have all the best teachers and there are fabulous teachers at "lesser" high schools.[/quote]

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