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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I will be spending New Year’s Eve with my son’s girlfriend’s parents for the first time . They apparently do not drink (though are okay if their adult kids do). I enjoy wine with dinner, and to be honest would ideally have some wine on New Year’s Eve—especially in a socially charged situation—nothing excessive at all.

But, perhaps it is rude of me to bring wine, if they don’t drink? (No one under 21 will be present.) Thanks.[/quote]

Bringing wine to a place where you know people are deliberately abstaining is excessive. If you can't go a night without it, even in "a socially charged situation" you may have a problem with alcohol use/dependence.

Spend a single sober night. You will survive. Unless, of course, you won't, in which case, you're already an alcoholic and will need supervised detox to deal with your DTs.

Seriously, though. The fact that the thought of being without booze for a single event is giving you this much stress indicates you have a problematic relationship to alcohol. There are all kinds of programs that can help you with this.

-7+ years sober (and I used to "sneak a flask" to all kinds of things I "enjoyed more w/o booze", so I get it)[/quote]

Blah blah blah. It’s not just any night we’re talking about, folks. It’s NYE! Basically anyone who drinks has a glass of champagne on NYE. You’re acting like it’s a random Tuesday night in March. Get over yourself. Just because you’re an alcoholic doesn’t mean everyone is.[/quote]

It's one night. There's nothing magical about a glass of alcohol on new year's. Plenty of people don't drink. If you can't be one of them, if you're so addicted that you have to bring booze somewhere you know it won't be, that's not about "enjoyment", it's about your addiction.

Fighting this hard for it, like it's some sort of sacred thing, represents a very flawed relationship to a food item. Do you go this hard for eggs on Easter? Goose on Christmas?

Sober up. If you can't, well, there's your problem[/quote]

If someone really wants to bring pumpkin pie to Thanksgiving it doesn't make them an addict. Some people treat alcohol like food. It's just another item on the table to sample and not consumed as a drug. It doesn't have a hold on us as it apparently does for you. [/quote]
 Thank you.

Why are so many people using “need” interchangeably with “prefer?”[/quote]

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