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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. There is a reason why she is so attached to this school. Don’t have time to type it all out but it is an irrational reason and all the discussions I’ve had with her about it went nowhere. For those blaming me, you don’t know half the story so keep it to yourself.
We go to a high FARMs school. There are probably 5 kids applying to top level schools. Opportunities are scarce but she found them and did well with them. But not at the level a kid with resources can succeed. The school counselor has her hands full so she doesnt get the guidance and advice that some private schools provide. 
I thank everyone whom offered support. Being a parent is tough especially when you’ve dealt with nothing but challenges in your life and just want your kids to be happy. I know I can’t change the system but allowing kids to out all their eggs in one basket can cause a lot of pressure. And no, she doesn’t do club sports or other $$$ activities but what she has done, she has done well. I just want her to bounce back and be ok.[/quote]

Although I think perhaps some comments can be said more kindly, I feel what people are trying to say here is that us (and our kids) are dealt with the hand they are dealt. Some have all the resources in the world to allow them to go to excellent prep schools and have the downside of competing against equally amply resourced kids who are also brilliant intellectually. Some kids have the misfortune of going to under-resourced public schools that don't provide them much as enrichment opportunities as these elite high schools but the up side of that is that when you are brilliant in an underresourced school, you are bound to stand out and your chances of getting into these highly selective colleges are not too shabby. Both scenarios offer advantages and disadvantages. That's just the way it is.

It may be unhealthy to blame your daughter's reaction to a set of forces outside her control (like ED policies, admissions practices, etc) because realistically there are a good number of kids who have not had the resources that others may have but still did well in the college application process.

When you lament this perceived injustice towards your child, your child will always feel like a victim when that should not be the case. Maybe that is what is adding to her stress.[/quote]

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