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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is OP. My first priority is that my kids get to see both parents as much as possible. It makes sense, given his schedule, that I see them when he physically can't (during work hours) and he continues to see them for the amount he does now. We mostly divide and conquer on the weekends now. If we adopt this schedule the only thing that changes is I'm not there for bedtime on school nights and he misses one full weekend day. This seems pretty fair? [/quote]

No. No, no, no. What's changing is that you're no longer able to divide and conquer, so your weekends are becoming quite stressful unless your family helps or you get a sitter.  And you're doing a ton of driving back and forth. It's a time-suck-- not so much the drive itself but the getting kids dressed and into the car. It's going to really add up.

Stop protecting this man from the consequences of his CHOICE to have a non-flexible job. Stop treating his job as fixed and unchangeable. Stop thinking he's entitled to see them as much as he does now! I get that you want that for your kids, but it's not something he's entitled to ask of you for his own sake. It's okay for him to experience the consequences of his CHOICE to end his marriage. Clearly seeing his kids as much as possible is not his priority, because if it were, he wouldn't be leaving his wife and he wouldn't be giving you 75% of the weekends. You need to stop telling yourself he's such a good dad.

I'm more okay with this because your financial situation is pretty good, but still-- be mindful of your child support and don't let the where-they-sleep technicality screw you out of what's truly fair.[/quote]

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