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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is OP again. Sorry at a play with my kids. I left a ton out in an effort for brevity but I can clear some things up, just didn't want to drone on.

I haven't moved out, he's staying in the guest room. Will likely move out after Christmas. He makes over 2 mil a year, we've been married ten years so if I want I can get half, no prenup. I don't want half I just want my kids taken care of. I didn't marry him for money, have begged him to step back at work, obviously he hasn't and this is one of many reasons we're divorcing.

I am a phd level psych and charge $250 an hour. I can work nights if he has the kids. In two years when they're all in school 8-3 I will ramp up my schedule.

We live in a very small town, my parents are local. He's not close to his family (obviously a red flag I missed). The place I want to rent is five minutes from current house and two minutes from kids school and youngest daycare. The driving isn't anything different than I'm currently doing.

He's a good day, just a damaged person who can't accept responsibility for his actions and wants the easy way out. I don't know how his relationship with his kids will develop as they see more but for now it's good and I want to encourage that. [/quote]

Uh, if you're not a troll, obviously see a lawyer at that income level. Why on earth would you be running around between work and chauffeuring the kids when you could probably get a settlement that allows you not to work at all.[/quote]

I like to work and went to school for a long time to be here. I'm not letting him take that from me. [/quote]

Reading between the lines, are both of you no longer in love?  Your kids are so little and so closely spaced...with your job, it must be your professional judgement that he can't "take responsibility"?  How will that work if he has a new gf at his new house and this elaborate custody arrangement? Are you only thinking about a Year 1 solution?  If he's a selfish guy, I don't think this arrangement will last a long time.  Do your parents have a useful opinion (as other backup caregivers who know your family)?[/quote]

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