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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]^100 percent.
Also: the best kids are picked by U12. If not on top team somewhere, will be nearly impossible to move up. 
Don’t let her suffer with a mean or bad coach.
Don’t keep her on a team if she’s not playing most of the game at that age.
It’s all about confidence. Let her hog a ball a bit. Selflessness gets you nowhere in girls soccer.[/quote]

Also, this is 100%

If I knew now at u11 what I wish I would have known at u8 (Yes, we started travel at u8 and played a year up early with our local club.); then I would have switched her to a feeder ECNL club or straight ECNL club earlier.  We stayed a 1-2 years too long at our local club because my DD was not ready to switch.  (Didn't understand why.) But now we did switch and the tops teams are slammed full of kids. All very good kids.  Our local club did not have the development or intensity needed to level my player at all. Now, we have to hope that about 10 other kids who arrived here before us either move out of the area, switch clubs or start to suck somehow.  Otherwise, even with loads of hard work, we are still behind a lot of kids who had better development and behind in terms of longevity at priority at the club.

Do what you have to do to not get stuck on a ECNL RL team or a GA-II team.  None of those teams get a lot of college exposure. None of those teams or players get recommended for much anything.  I'd hate to get stuck on that level of a team (often kids are there, because they are stuck there and there is no room to move up), I'd switch to a club that has the club you want for college recruiting now.

(The exception to that is parents who know their kid is super athletic, bigger, faster and stronger than their peers.... they won't have to worry about switching early...they usually get picked at try outs for which ever team they go to... this take is based that observation 3 times over.)

And yes, keep working on juggling... that is a skill that showcases and encapsulates a kid's dedication to the sport to the coaches. 
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It's not 'we' You are not playing, your kid is. If your kid needs 10 other kids to leave the club, I don't think you have to worry about colleges scouting them [/quote]

I took the “not we” approach with my older. With my younger I’ve gone full circle, it’s absolutely “we.” Yes she is the player, in the payer, driver, factotum, expediter, dietician, laundry specialist, etc. It’s absolutely a home team behind the player. So yep, “WE have to travel this weekend, because WE have a tournament.”[/quote]

+100 As parents you have to be absolutely about “we”. Some of these coaches in this area are such dirty rats and treat your child like garbage. You have to let your girls know that you have their back. The post that said parents should stop attending their child’s practice after U6 and should stop cheering on the sideline is probably one of these dirty rat coaches. They taunt and humiliate young kids. There are many good coaches in the area but many are toxic sub-humans that should not be anywhere near children. The stories I could tell about some of the nasty things coaches have done and said (even at the uLittles age) would shock and horrify you. Most kids quit at 12 because of rotten coaches. It’s not overly involved parents that are causing girls to leave its inhumane coaches. Shop around and talk to people. The good coaches and teams do exist but you need to do your homework. Don’t settle for the local neighborhood bully coach because he tells you he’s brilliant. He’s probably a moron that is only coaching for extra cash and most likely very resentful of the girls and parents. [/quote]

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