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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Traditional roles. To me, marriages worked back in the day for a reason, there were clear roles. The man was the leader of the home and provided financially. The woman took on my of the parenting role with the children and took care of the home. I made sure to find a man that had a similar outlook on marriage. [/quote]

A lot of marriages “back in the day” did not work. Women and children were abused and just could not leave because they could not provide for themselves and/or the judicial system would not allow them to leave. My marriage works because it is egalitarian and we contribute financially and inside the home equally. [/quote]

I was sharing my opinion, I see it differs from yours and that is fine. No one mentioned abuse though…. That is very extreme. [/quote]

You expressed an opinion about why marriages used to “work.” It’s important to provide context for the vulnerability that women and children experienced in the context of men “leading” and “providing financially.” Many women have opted out of this arrangement today because it leaves them with no options if abuse happens. It’s not an extreme situation. It’s been the reality for many women and children in America and abroad who were at the mercy of a male breadwinner and inequitable court system. Nostalgia for “traditional” roles is dangerous if we don’t remind people that this situation also potentially leads to the disempowerment of women. [/quote]

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