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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Stop doing Christmas there. You will really regret never having holidays at your own home or on vacation with your kids. Don’t let your in laws monopolize your holidays and force your kids to fit into their adult parties.[/quote]

This is definitely a cultural shift.  I think that most people over many decades would equate holidays to spending time with their families (all of their family), not just a little nuclear family going on vacation for Christmas.  Not that you can't do this, but acknowledge that many people, especially in the older generations, would find this selfish and not in keeping with the meaning of Christmas.[/quote]

I’m absolutely agree. But OP’s not talking about just Christmas, but every single holiday for years and years, in addition to seeing the in-laws  frequently. That is the context.

OP - been there done that. Eventually moved to different city due to work and I appreciate the in-laws so much more, because I see them once a year, twice max. Before when we lived in DC it was similar to your situation due to my husband refusing to set boundaries. My in-laws were fine but the frequency was too much for me, and it became a persistent spouse issue when my husband refused to stand up for my request to have occasional holidays to ourselves. [/quote]

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