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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’d be annoyed that she thinks you arrived “late” when your dd had school.  Why does she think your dd should miss school for people she’ll see all weekend?[/quote]

My spouse and I have gone very low contact with his family because of this type of stuff. After we had kids, they felt like they owned every moment of our time when they weren't interested in us before then. None of us live close to one another and all of a sudden they expected us at attend every crazy thing my sils were involved in states away. An extended family member had a very informal post post post wedding get together and we were 1/2 hour late because of the drive. Dh's parents and sisters were furious and spent our time together at the event berating me, not dh who drove and knew the area, for the route he took. It didn't matter that lots of people were let because of the traffic problem we all were stuck in on the way. Any time dh left my side they approached me to berate me. After the second berating I told them they were out of line and went and sat elsewhere. We had called the extended family member and let them know the traffic was holding us up and they weren't bothered at all. There was no ceremony or anything other than a bunch of people eating a pot luck. The thing went on for 5 hours a lot of people left after the first hour.

This describes what the relationship with my ils was like. They lived to have a reason to be angry at whomever was their latest target. They aimed their hatred at a different sil for years but she and bil had moved away. We almost never see these people because they will not stop being nasty. No matter what the issue is, it is always my fault. The last time we invited them to  our house they criticized everything in front of our friends and neighbors. They insulted my house, my taste, said that I was lying and didn't make any of the food and on and on. They insulted me constantly and made up crazy lies to our neighbors and friends. It was mortifying.

We had no idea until that event that they were making up crazy lies about both of us but more pointed at me. We learned more after we stopped seeing them and we will never get over it. People like this don't deserve our time and certainly not our children's time.

I'm not a troll. After the event at our house one of the older neighbors shared with me what she went through and I'm glad there is less pressure to go along and tolerate this type of behavior. [/quote]

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