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[quote=Anonymous][b][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The contexuals are important as well...is this MLS Next/ECNL or something lower?  If your kid is a top player with real prospects, then you have to be as ruthless as these clubs are and do what is best for his future in the sport.  If they are playing for the learning experience and fun, then maybe stick it out all year and see if they can overcome the challenges cause its not really about their future in the sport.

If it was me, it would be all about what the long-term goal is of playing the sport in the first place.  And we all kinda know where our kid is at whether we want to admit it or not...[/quote]

Do you think kids know where they are at or rely on their parents to tell them?[/quote]

I'm sure its different for every child.  I have a U11 and a U14 both playing on top teams in top leagues.  One thinks he's better than he actually is and the other thinks he sucks but he's the best player on the pitch every match.  It's my job as a parent to view them critically and be honest with them (and myself) so they can get better.  Too many parents are completely detached from reality and think their kid will be playing on TV soon...so they make bad choices for their kid because of it.  That was part of my point above.[/quote]

It is never your job to view your kid critically.  It is your job to view your child realistically.

If your kid[s] have anything even remotely special, trust me, the good coaches will nuture and encourage it, even if it means going to another club to play at the next level. Youth soccer coaches don't make a ton of money. Finding and elevating a gem of a player can be their life's work.[/quote]

Its always my job to view them critically but thank you for the opinion.  I'm not sure if you quite realize that viewing your child critically is viewing them realistically.  But thank you for the advice?[/quote]

Touche and I'll take that nick. I fully acknowledge that I've spent too much time on the sidelines with parents who put the critic in critical.[/quote]

You know, I’ve always wondered how well kids who have vocally critical parents develop in their soccer careers.

[/b]Anecdotally, on DS’s team, the best players have very quiet parents or who watch from afar.[b]

For what it’s worth, parents have become quieter as the kids become more competitive. Perhaps a combination of the times (sideline coaching and criticism usually frowned upon now) and realizing that there are many other kids as good or better than yours. [/quote]

I agree.  What that usually means is in the early years they might get stuck on lower teams while the loudmouth/upyourbutt parents push their kids on the coaches/TDs. By U17-18/19, you start to see these kids finally get noticed. I find on the higher teams and the older/oldest age groups, the stands/sidelines are virtually quiet. My mom just commented on this last week at my younger son's game.  We have been on same crazy *ss sidelines over the years.  I always tried to sit as far away as possible---another benefit to the older age groups playing in HS stadiums and larger venues where you really can sit far, far away from everyone else.  [/quote]

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